Guest Commentary | Practicing gratitude through the holidays and beyond
In the hustle and bustle of our day-to-day lives, it’s easy to overlook the small moments that bring us joy. The holiday season naturally invites us to slow down and recognize what truly matters. Whether it’s reconnecting with loved ones, taking part in meaningful traditions or simply finding moments of tranquility, this time of year opens the door to those possibilities.
The holidays are also the perfect time to pause and reflect on the role gratitude plays in our lives. Beyond the traditions and celebrations, this season offers a chance to be intentional about our mental wellness by practicing thankfulness in meaningful ways.
Research shows that gratitude is linked to lower stress levels, improved moods and stronger relationships. It encourages a shift in focus from what’s lacking in our lives to what’s abundant, which can improve how we cope with everyday stressors. Learning to practice gratitude doesn’t require large gestures. Even small, daily habits can change how we view challenges and bring more positivity into our lives.
This is especially true during the holidays. When schedules and work slow down, we have the chance to reflect and reset.
Practicing gratitude can mean more than going around the table and saying what we’re thankful for. It can also mean writing down three positive things that happened during the week, taking time to express appreciation, starting a new family tradition or volunteering and giving back to the community. These intentional acts serve as gentle reminders of the good around us, helping make the holidays more meaningful and strengthening emotional resilience.
At the same time, it’s important to acknowledge that the season isn’t always magical for everyone. For some, it can feel overwhelming or even isolating. Stress from family dynamics, financial pressures or loneliness can take a toll on emotional well-being. Social media often paints an idealized picture of the holidays, which can add pressure to feel joyful or connected, even when that’s not everyone’s reality. Acknowledging these feelings, rather than ignoring them, helps set more realistic expectations.
That’s also where gratitude can become a grounding tool. It helps shift perspectives during difficult moments. Even simple things-enjoying a walk, sharing a meal or taking time to rest-can bring comfort and foster resilience. When we focus intentionally on what’s going well in our lives, even in hard times, it can calm our nervous system and reduce anxiety.
Gratitude is not a one-size-fits-all solution or a magic fix. It’s about recognizing what’s working well in your life, what you enjoy and what you want to see more of. Things don’t have to be perfect to be good. It’s about noticing the moments that bring meaning and joy, and pausing to appreciate them, without denying other areas that may still need care or improvement.
The beauty of practicing gratitude is that it doesn’t have to end when the holidays are over. Small habits like keeping a gratitude journal, taking mindful breaths, or pausing to find the good in each day can strengthen mental health long after the decorations come down.
In the hustle and bustle, it can also be hard to see how far you’ve come, the progress you’ve made and the opportunities that have come out of difficult situations. Taking time to write in a journal not only builds mindfulness in the present but also gives you the chance to look back later and see how much you’ve grown.
Over time, these small acts create a ripple effect of positivity that lasts far beyond the dinner table, helping us approach the season and the year ahead with more balance, resilience, and perspective. They remind us that we don’t need a special occasion to be grateful; We can choose to look for the good in every single day.
Elizabeth Dosoretz, LCSW, is the founder and CEO of Elite DNA Behavioral Health.